Yesterday was Saturday and we have started having breakfast at The Art of Coffee in Coleford, the coffee is great as is the breakfast, during our weekly shop. Yesterday was the Faddle Fair at Coleford, we didn’t realise the Fair was on so the town was busy as was the Cafe. I must have sensed it was busy as I rushed to the Cafe to book our breakfast and find a table to sit at. It was quiet however moments later the cafe filled up.

Our breakfast arrived and so did the cacophony of noise from the very chatty clientele, it was getting louder and louder. My wife wanted to eat up and leave quickly; most weeks it’s been a quiet place with couples and singletons enjoying a quiet breakfast reading the newspapers or quietly planning their day.

Not today!

I had a brain wave, why don’t I connect with everyone in the cafe and ask for quiet, I didn’t stand up and in my best loud voice say ” Excuse me but can you all talk quieter the cacophony is getting too loud” I don’t think that would have gone down too well!

Instead I did what I’d learnt during my Alexander training, that is to invite quite into the room. It does sound crackers, trust me it does work, my wife can testify as this is what I did yesterday.

How to do it is the complete opposite of what you may think you need to do. There is no doing involved, there’s letting go of trying to do anything. Letting my energy be at peace, letting my energy be calm and allowing the calm to spread to everyone in the room. When those in the room received my calm they quietened down and either stopped speaking or lowered the volume of their voice. My wife was impressed at the speed they quietened, then we enjoyed our breakfast in full cafe with everyone enjoying a few moments of calm with their breakfast. I do hope the other clientele enjoyed their calm moments and return to the The Art of Coffee for more chilled moments and of course their fabulous coffee.

This practice of quiet is what I use when I work with groups or when working with an individual client. It is the first stage of helping them with whatever angst they bring to me. As several of my clients have said to me on various occasions, this calm is better than drugs, I guess this is the calm what some people seek through drugs, I digressed.

Being calm is one thing, it is fantastic, what I’m seeking with my clients is a change is being able to be calm and also in activity at the same time. Two focuses at the same time, the focus of being calm, that’s having a full attention to their body and the place they are in and the focus on what they seek to do, the intent to achieve something.

Simple ah!

What stops everyone, including me, is the self-doubt and unworthiness in whatever form it takes that prevent you from having the attention to your body and space around you, and the intent to achieve something. I’ll help you with letting go of this self-doubt and unworthiness. When you watch my testimonials this is exactly what they are saying.

If you are seeking calm and or want to manage your the self-doubt and unworthiness then do contact me, i can help you.

See you soon.

John

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