Month: May 2022

Alexander Technique

These thoughts will change your world

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There are many wonderful people out there, more than you think. People who you can trust and they can trust you, they accept you as you are as you can accept them.

The niggly bit about trusting those wonderful people is that you have to trust yourself first, that’s really trusting yourself, none of this playing at it. You know when you when you are playing at it as things just don’t feel right. You say “yes” to yourself or others, maybe more like “maybe”, “perhaps later”, you know your cop-out words that you use! You use these words to placate you and other as know you will never do what you promise. It is common and its ok to think and behave like that, well, for several years then you will fall off the rocks or whatever your favourite metaphor is for your emotional crash.

Not being truthful to yourself always ends up in a mess, your energy is in a mess with opposing thoughts and beliefs.

I know I’ve recently been there!

Coming to terms with being honest to yourself is difficult as your inward and outward beliefs and thoughts need to align with each other and be in harmony, a tall ask after years of the opposite especially if you keep doing what your always do.

This is where being present really helps and allowing yourself to feel all your emotions.

You will get overwhelm, listen to your body and respond as your body requests. If you need to sleep, then sleep don’t put it off else you’ll slip into your past behaviours.

Say NO to yourself and others when your body says so, this is the hardest thing if your are a YES person, the people pleaser, wanting to be nice all the time, thinking others know best for you: how can they, they probably don’t even know themselves.

Be kind to yourself and love yourself, these thoughts will change your world. They have changed my world.

Do get in touch and I can teach you ways to say yes and no honestly and truthfully to yourself.

Asthma, depression, EAM, mindfulness, present, Rediscover your Freedom, trying

Those emotions!

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It’s a difficult life learning to live with all my emotions, it was so much easier living between my glass floor and ceiling. Things just felt right and in control though I wasn’t getting anywhere fast. I had my gut that went tight when I sensed danger, whether true or false, this stopped me in my tracks with thoughts of I can’t do that. I remember back when I used to shake with fear when asked to do a presentation of some sort or speaking to a group, I’d start by pumping up my energy with fear lurking and hiding behind, I’d rehearse my script, not very well as I knew I was going to fail. I’d start with false confidence then doubt and fear would cut in, my throat would tighten, the dry cough would appear and my asthma would awake. When I was in the height of my asthma I’d also over use my inhaler before I started.

Then I’d look for a friendly supportive face and tell them what I planned to say, ignoring everyone else. Job done and then I could breathe again. There was an elation that I’d survived the ordeal.

Does this resonate with you?

These events now seems so long ago, I’m happy to present and talk to anyone, the secret is to speak from the heart and speak authentically. You may be wondering how I’ve managed to change me? Simply put I’ve stopped doing stuff I’m now being me. All that stuff is fear and other low energy emotions, which I still have, I now manage by being present and honest with myself, when I’m present fear can’t enter the stage, though its waiting in the wings for its opportunity.

The art of being present is a long journey, there are many blind alleys and rabbit holes; all these are thoughts, beliefs and emotions that are unhelpful and need to be accepted and allowed to leave, many have been here for a long long time and are deeply attached and need to be visited several times to encourage their energy to change.

I thought I had cracked it, that’s being present between my glass floor and glass ceiling then the floor smashed and now I realised I was only playing at life in my little sphere of protection, now there is a whole lot more to life and I can see what is holding me back (until the next glass floor smashes).  I’ve had many glass floors in the past, I’ve assumed I’d known enough then something happens to show me there is more than I thought. This time it seems such a huge a shift, perhaps the other ones did at the time, these ah ah moments that introduced a paradigm shift. It’s now been three weeks since I crashed and I still feel that I’m still in the healing phase with lots to assimilate and lots to let go of. My personal work on my energy, thoughts, beliefs and emotions is on-going as I assume will continue well after this healing phase has finished. You may think why continue, well, if I stop I’ll then create another glass floor and glass ceiling and this doesn’t serve me as well as being without them.

Over the past few years I’ve come along way from being scared of my own shadow to being present and have a vision for my life.

If any of this interests you then please get in contact, I run workshops and 1:1 sessions on-line and in person.

anxiety, depression, EAM, habit, Rediscover your Freedom

When the glass floor smashes

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I came to a halt a couple of weeks ago, a real halt, I simply couldn’t do anything. My energy was in turmoil, I was swinging from despair to happiness in a few seconds and back again this lasted for most of the morning. I’d hit the enough is enough button and enough was enough and I wasn’t going anywhere soon. Later I discovered that driving my car was scary and very exhausting so I was really not going anywhere soon!

You may have heard or read about the glass ceiling, where you restrict yourself from achieving your dreams. I discovered that we also have a glass floor, I broke this floor and fell to the bottom of the basement where grief, hatred, guilt and despair live.

We all tend to live within the boundaries of the glass floor and glass ceiling, it is safe here as we know what is going on even though we aren’t meeting our full potential. It is like being a battery that we just partially top up to the glass ceiling and let drop to the glass floor before we recharge, eventually our potential and the batteries potential is restricted to this range. We wouldn’t do this to a battery so why do we do it to our bodies. Perhaps habit and comfort are our reasons.

The glass floor is where we set measures so that we don’t have to visit our low energies, we model these energies instead, manning up, stiff upper lip are a couple of terms that describe my glass floor. The fear of fear is the essence of what the glass floor is protecting, not wanting to feel or sense the fear, we may not know why we need to do this though it is there in your psyche. I believe it is healthy to have the gamut of emotions from shame to joy and beyond. What is not healthy is hanging on to the energy that was created when an emotion is visited, this is applicable to all emotions on the scale, I know it is wonderful to linger in joy and love, this doesn’t serve you, the only thing that serves you is the emotion in the moment, the authenticity and sovereignty of being present. 

Until I came to a halt I wasn’t aware I wasn’t with my lower energy emotions, I was living with my glass floor, manning up with the occasional crocodile tear as I didn’t know how to allow myself to mourn, how to feel grieve; I played at all this. Crashing to the bottom is a blessing as it has allowed me to engage with my full potential. Allowing me to be me for the first time that I can remember.

My yoyoing of my emotions, I assume, was myself wanting to get to the place of safety above the glass floor, only to realise the floor wasn’t there and I crashed back down. It was only when I let go of trying to escape that things settled. I may have a head start with some of you reading this as I’ve been doing energy work for some years, once I was settled I could do some work on myself and asked for help from other colleagues. Each one brought something different to help me, each was timely and a timely benefit to me.

In hindsight, though it was only a few weeks ago, I’ve needed this crash for sometime, to smash my glass floor and ceiling to allow me to develop further in my energy work, I was holding myself back at the very beginning when i discovered energy work and throughout my other careers. I’ve read, done the training, understood the concepts, what was missing was embedding what I’d learnt into my soul; being it instead of, what I’ve done for years, doing it. There is a huge difference between being and doing, many people have tried the tell and teach me without success. I simply wasn’t ready to listen, I needed to crash and live it.

Thank you for reading my post, if this resonates with you, why not come along to my workshops or take a personal session with me,