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Alexander Discovery, EAM

When Alexander met EAM

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Recently I attended a weekend retreat for EAM mentors, I volunteered to present for an hour on how I work with clients.

I personally really enjoy my presentation, it flowed and I got my message across, those who watched and participated looked like they enjoyed it and got a lot out of it. After the presentation I had a flow of people wanting to experience what I presented; during the presentation I demonstrated with two volunteers and they wanted some of what I did. I can’t remember their exact words the two volunteers said something on the lines for feeling light and free.

The presentation was a mix of Alexander and EAM, helping those attending to be more present and more knowledgeable about how their body works, I focused on the head neck joint, and the hip joints, getting greater awareness of these three joint ( you have two hip joints) your use will change dramatically.

You may have read that I’m very intuitive and can sense what’s going on in others bodies; don’t worry I only use my intuition when requested.

Using my intuition and the body mapping I introduced helps me to sense the angsts in people. The two volunteers got to sense my touch and I got the opportunity to help them where things in their bodies tight, where there was unnecessary tension. By me noticing and telling them they had the opportunity to release this tension.

Releasing tension is very difficult without help, you have probably been to a massage to help you with this. When I’m working with someone or a groups of people I invite space into the room and into their bodies. When I’m touching someone I can be more direct and invite space into a particular limb to show them what it is like to have freedom and aliveness. Sadly, this won’t last as they will normally return to their old habits over the coming days.

What I was experimenting with at the retreat was to include the above, part of the Alexander Technique and the next thing I’m about to write, EAM.

My thought was what would happen if I helped clients to improve their body awareness and also released the trauma that was causing their limbs and body to be in tension. With the queue of volunteers over the remaining day and the next, I experimented and had wonderful results extremely quickly. I could notice, resolve and release their angst within a few minutes with lasting effects.

I did get the comment that it looks like you put your hand on their shoulder, say a few words and they go away free, full of liveliness, big smiles and glowing.

I’ve since worked on my clients with the same rapid transformations. I am happy for you to contact me and tell me what I can help you with.

I’ve included two videos of what they thought of my work.

Alexander Technique, breathing, depression, EAM, freedom, habit, trying

Kintsugi for the soul

John

Kintsugi is a Japanese practice of repair broken pottery by using gold to lovingly and carefully join the broken pieces together again, hence making the piece even more precious than before.

What I do is Kintsugi for the soul, people come to me because they have physical pain and or emotional pain in the form of depression and anxiety. My techniques and methods are the gold to their cracks of pain.

The gold that seals the cracks in their soul.

Turning these cracks into gold so that you can show up for every moment of every day your precious beauty and magnificence.

EAM, love, mindfulness

Real Excitement

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Today I discovered that I’ve been fooling myself for many years, I really knew it already but have been hiding from the truth until today.

It was ok to admit it, I did get the help from someone else, they supported and guided me through my discovery.

I was overjoyed at my discovery, then I had a huge mental collapse for the afternoon. I stayed with my collapse, living and accepting it as I was realigning, now these events don’t take too long, once they used to take days now a few hours. I really don’t like these mental collapses, when I’m in them they never seem to end, I loiter around allowing things to happen, sleep helps, being kind to myself helps, waiting helps even if its painful.

Then it’s all over.

Clarity, I know my way ahead.

You may be wondering what it was?

It was the discovery that I’ve been stuck in a metaphorical box which has been constraining me and preventing who I really am. It’s been going on for years in fact decades and I haven’t even noticed it, obeying the rules with a little wiggle room to help me believe I’m a free spirit. I guess you may be like this as well or you haven’t yet noticed your own box.

I’ve been pushing against my box for sometime, it’s exhausting and futile. I had emptied my core, I felt like a doughnut with no centre, my centre hole all burnt, scarred, cracked and blacked, there was nothing in the centre. All my effort and energy was pushing outwards and burning my core as it went. I felt the only way out of the box was to be in service to others and ignoring my service to self. I’ve been burning myself out from the inside. The charred empty burnt feeling felt very real earlier today, I can still sense its emptiness. I hadn’t noticed before today, today opened up my senses!

This has been smouldering for a very long time.

Now the smouldering has been put out!

I’ve now burst out of the box with excitement and now getting on with my life.

What an awful Image, I guess its got your attention!

The excitement isn’t the head sort of excitement which I see as a frenzy, being over ecstatic with excitement. What I sense is the heart and gut excitement that is driven and focused, it has it’s own beauty to this excitement, there is a vision and goal to it, there is a clarity and joyfulness that drives this excitement, its very personal excitement, its the energy you see in motivated people. There a love of life!

This may have happened this morning, it now seems such a long time ago. A lot went on in the session I had.

Simply put my energy, yin and yang and auras were aligned.

Post Note:

I wrote the above yesterday, today I’ve been busy doing practical stuff, clearing out old paperwork from my office, there was a lot of it! Helping my wife with things and being happy with whatever I’ve done, a strange concept that I’m very happy to get used to.

Going through all this anxiety and depression has really opened my eyes to how difficult it is without support and love from others.

Please get in touch if you ever need a chat or help, I’m here and I understand.

anxiety, depression, EAM, habit, Rediscover your Freedom

When the glass floor smashes

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I came to a halt a couple of weeks ago, a real halt, I simply couldn’t do anything. My energy was in turmoil, I was swinging from despair to happiness in a few seconds and back again this lasted for most of the morning. I’d hit the enough is enough button and enough was enough and I wasn’t going anywhere soon. Later I discovered that driving my car was scary and very exhausting so I was really not going anywhere soon!

You may have heard or read about the glass ceiling, where you restrict yourself from achieving your dreams. I discovered that we also have a glass floor, I broke this floor and fell to the bottom of the basement where grief, hatred, guilt and despair live.

We all tend to live within the boundaries of the glass floor and glass ceiling, it is safe here as we know what is going on even though we aren’t meeting our full potential. It is like being a battery that we just partially top up to the glass ceiling and let drop to the glass floor before we recharge, eventually our potential and the batteries potential is restricted to this range. We wouldn’t do this to a battery so why do we do it to our bodies. Perhaps habit and comfort are our reasons.

The glass floor is where we set measures so that we don’t have to visit our low energies, we model these energies instead, manning up, stiff upper lip are a couple of terms that describe my glass floor. The fear of fear is the essence of what the glass floor is protecting, not wanting to feel or sense the fear, we may not know why we need to do this though it is there in your psyche. I believe it is healthy to have the gamut of emotions from shame to joy and beyond. What is not healthy is hanging on to the energy that was created when an emotion is visited, this is applicable to all emotions on the scale, I know it is wonderful to linger in joy and love, this doesn’t serve you, the only thing that serves you is the emotion in the moment, the authenticity and sovereignty of being present. 

Until I came to a halt I wasn’t aware I wasn’t with my lower energy emotions, I was living with my glass floor, manning up with the occasional crocodile tear as I didn’t know how to allow myself to mourn, how to feel grieve; I played at all this. Crashing to the bottom is a blessing as it has allowed me to engage with my full potential. Allowing me to be me for the first time that I can remember.

My yoyoing of my emotions, I assume, was myself wanting to get to the place of safety above the glass floor, only to realise the floor wasn’t there and I crashed back down. It was only when I let go of trying to escape that things settled. I may have a head start with some of you reading this as I’ve been doing energy work for some years, once I was settled I could do some work on myself and asked for help from other colleagues. Each one brought something different to help me, each was timely and a timely benefit to me.

In hindsight, though it was only a few weeks ago, I’ve needed this crash for sometime, to smash my glass floor and ceiling to allow me to develop further in my energy work, I was holding myself back at the very beginning when i discovered energy work and throughout my other careers. I’ve read, done the training, understood the concepts, what was missing was embedding what I’d learnt into my soul; being it instead of, what I’ve done for years, doing it. There is a huge difference between being and doing, many people have tried the tell and teach me without success. I simply wasn’t ready to listen, I needed to crash and live it.

Thank you for reading my post, if this resonates with you, why not come along to my workshops or take a personal session with me,

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The Roller coaster of live

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Over the past few weeks my energy has been in turmoil, yes it gets the best of us, we are only human as well!

Have yo ever noticed that all of a sudden you feel shit, despondent and nowhere to go. I know I’m on the slippery slope from love to fear but I can’t seem to help myself until I’ve landed at the bottom amongst the mess of fear and hatred. From there, after a while of doom and despondency, I can start my work to return to my beautiful, wonderful high energy state of love joy and freedom, it doesn’t take long as I have the tools to use, you may want to know these tools, the easiest way is to ask me and I’ll tell you, I digress.

Life is alway with its ups and downs, it is how we navigate these ups and downs is the important thing. knowing they will happen and having the acceptance that shit happens and equally wonderful things happen then you can see these events as more of an observer instead of trying to fix the unfixable.

Fixing the unfixable just gives you grieve and pain in the strangest of places.

Life is a Roller Coaster, the yin and yang of life, holding on to where you feel comfortable and safe is a fools errand. If you life in the low energy space of fear and terror or the high energy space of love joy and freedom, holding on isn’t serving your highest good. Yes I know it is scary to let go of what you are holding on to, whilst you are holding on you aren’t being yourself, I know from experience and still do with some things, this is why it’s good to shoot to the bottom of the roller coaster as this is where the shit is that is waiting for me to resolve. I journal about these things then do my EAM practice to release the shit and manifest something wonderful. It really works and I’m soon at the top of the roller coaster, I accept that I will have slumps and deep dives know that have the tools to return to the heights.

What I’ve noticed is that my roller coater has changed over the past few years. instead of having vey deep dives and a long long time at the bottom with a brief visits to to the top of the roller coaster and it wasn’t really very high. I’ve now moved to long plateaus at the top and it’s very high with gentle slopes to the bottom, this new bottom in much higher than the top used to be.

This comes with a price, that is practice, dedication and acceptance. The first acceptance is realising that you can change whatever age you are, I have and I’m quite senior. Letting go of the beliefs that start with

I can’t,
I won’t
what will they think
and a whole lot more yo can think of

What is your favourite stopper?

Please get in touch and I can get you on your journey.

It’s simple and free, click on this link, book a time in my calendar that suits you, then we can chat https://calendly.com/john-stevenson99/lets_chat

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The Five Steps to Freedom

John

If you have read my previous post then you may have grasped that we are all electro-magnetic energy. The interesting thing is that we can control our electoral-magnetic energy by our thoughts, beliefs and emotions. It’s a little more complicated than that; I’ll leave the experts to describe this fully.

Take the opposite emotions, being in love, everything just flows and you have a wonderful time. Hating everything and life is difficult manage. I know I have been there, stuck in the vicious cycle of anxiety and depression with the added bonus of asthma, my life was difficult and I assume living with me was difficult, luckily for me I didn’t remember much about that time of my life.

Over the past couple of years I’ve studied EAM, a self help tool for getting out of the mire of whatever is troubling you. You may be like I was suck with anxiety and depression and don’t forget asthma. I’d done a lot of work previously to bumping into EAM. What EAM provided was the icing on the cake, a methodology that is simple to use, quick to learn, and once learnt, it is profound. It has taken me to places in my life that I had now knowledge about, those awkward moments I’d rather forget and keep boxed up very very safe.

Letting go of these events has allowed me to move on to greater and greater challenges with ease and confidence.

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EAM is much more than what I have written below, there are many twists and turns but the premise of EAM and everything returned to this. The 5 steps of EAM.

Step 1 You Ask, you ask your energy a question

Step 2 You move, Your energy give you an answer

Step 3 You Experience, you sense something from the question

Step 4 you Transform, You release any negative and unsupporting feelings

Step 5 You Manifest, You fill your energy with love and set the direction for your wonderful future.

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John

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We are all just energy

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In fact we are electricity magnetic energy, with this energy our cells will move in three ways in its environment, towards other healthy cells or food, away from unhealthy cells, threats and poisons or just stay put and don’t move either way. Our cells are recreated the same way several million or is it billion times, each cell adjusted to perform a particular activity within the host body, with all this cells we have a human, or any other organism you can think of, even the very slow forms i.e. rocks and strata.

THE THREE DIRECTIONS ARE OF INTEREST TO ME AND HOPEFULLY YOU.

In flow or Receptive, this is when everything just happens at the right time, the right place with the right people. You have a thought and before you know it what you thought has manifested in some form that is useful to you.

In Resistance, things eventually happen but it is hard work and lots of dead ends, wishing for things to happen and at the same time worrying about being unworthy and undeserving of what you hade wished for.

In Reversal, nothing ever ends well, life is hard and you don’t get anywhere with anything, other people misuse you and run rings around you, you are the but of everyone elses joke.

I know which one I prefer, which one is your choice? If you want to know more please book a chat with me.

We have these three flows everywhere, in every thought, belief, emotion, situation and your relationships. For example different people will invoke one of these flows, for someone you really love you will be receptive and connected to them, for someone you don’t like you may have a reversal and be very unreceptive and for others you can take them or leave them, there is some resistance you have with regards to them.

In EAM there is a very simple method to identify if you are in flow or not, that is the sway, when you are asked a question you will have a muscular response. If you reply truthfully you will have a particular muscular response and if you lie another particular muscular response. Normally a truth you sway forward and an untruth a sway backwards.

Using the sway and some other techniques I can help you to let go of the things that are staying put or going in the opposite direction, turning things around so that you are in flow, being receptive to what life brings.

If you want to let go of the things that are stopping you achieve your dreams and aspirations just book a chat with me. It’ll change your life.

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Alexander Technique, Asthma, attention, body mapping, breathing

The trouble with breathing!

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The trouble with breathing is that we think we need to be in control!

A pretty bold statement, now I’ll explain.

Breathing is an activity we can choose to do or not. When we don’t choose, that’s most of the day and when asleep, breathing just happens!

The problem with breathing is when there is a thought that breathing needs to be controlled. That’s fine if you are in real danger and you need to be really quiet so not to be noticed.

You may be swimming under water, managing your breathe would be helpful.

Other than these, please tell me if there are any more cases, there’s no need to hold your breath.

So way do so many of us do it? I do it but not as much as a while ago. Asthmatics do it, that was me. People who panic do it, that was me. Some people don’t even know they do it, that was me!

My understanding is that we hold our breath naturally when in the fright mode, when something unexpected happens, We gasp and hold, then check out what’s going then either keep holding our breath or breathe and carry on with our life.

Unfortunately over time some people stay longer and longer in the fright mode until it become asthmatic, that was me.

My breathing slowly became shallower and shallower, then a traumatic event happened I was crippled with asthma. I wasn’t nice, a horrible scary period of my life.

I had two choices, carry on and develop my shallow breathing and have a life with stronger and stronger inhalers or discover something else.

In fact something else found me; it was outside a supermarket, a story for another day, if fact I wrote a blog about that moment a few years ago. There was something magical about that moment and I followed my heart and discovered that in fact it was me doing things that was the cause of my asthmatic breathing, more importantly I could do something about my breathing,

In this world, as I was, we are conditioned that we need to do something to survive. I was in a state of shock, my breathing was frozen and I knew I had to breathe, I needed to breathe in to get some oxygen. If your breathing is like mine then, then you may be thinking like me, “I need to get some air in” when in fact the opposite is true, “I need to empty my lungs of stale gases and refresh my lungs with fresh air”. This is a truly daunting thought and massive trust in that if I breathe out air will flow back into my lungs. I had had months, really years of freezing my ribs in fright and only breathing from my diaphragm and my shoulders. By the way, shrugging shoulders to breathe has little effect, I didn’t know this at the time. This shrugging, forcing my diaphram and freezing my ribs was my attempt to breathe consciously through fright. I needed to do something to breathe and this was it!

You may have noticed I’ve mentioned “do, doing’ a few times. this was my problem I was doing things. I was doing too many things. I was doing fright whilst doing breathing. I was stuck in doing things that don’t need doing.

I was worrying about things in the future, I was being fantastic at this, I was ready for it as I was already in fright waiting for something that may not happen. I was getting as much air in as possible without breathing out. I fact I was a complete wreck struggling to survive, worrying about the future and unable to breathe naturally.

What I can teach you is, by overcoming these two things your life will change massively, that’s to stop worrying about your future and learning to breathe naturally.

It works for me and it will work for you. I’ve used these techniques for several years, I can notice when the old habits rise, apply what I’ve learnt and carry on with my life, being present and a regular supply of air to my lungs.

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In the mean time there are some photos of puppies

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What is the Alexander Technique?

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I’ve written what it is many times, yesterday I explained that it is teaching co-ordination, co-ordination of the whole human entity with all its boundaries, all the boundaries you care to know or think about and some you didn’t know existed.

It’s the co-ordination that you wish you can have so that you can be better at whatever you aspire to be.

Many of us spend many years and a lot of money to learn how to do something, perhaps your job, vocation, or you hobby. The list is endless; sports, musician, actor, poet, writer, doctor, nurse, dentist, lecturer, decorator, chef, hula hoop maker… . The list is endless, we are all trained in some activity that would benefit with better co-ordination.

This improved co-ordination is what the Alexander Technique teaches.

Improving your co-ordination by teaching you how to be in balance with whatever you want to do and whomever you want to communicate or interact with.

The art is noticing how you are reacting instead of being in autopilot. Taking more control of your reactions your performance will improve.

The by-products of improved co-ordination are that pain will soften and may eventually disappear, you will be happier, there will be more time in your day.

You will feel great!

Why not give it a try, if you don’t like feeling free, almost weightless, brighter and happier this is not for you but then again you will never know until you try it. Unfortunately words can’t describe the freedom and aliveness that being in co-ordination brings.

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Alexander Discovery, Alexander Technique, direction, freedom

Strange and Wonderful

John

I looked in the mirror yesterday and laughed, it was a spontaneous laugh, I didn’t start the laugh it was my image in the mirror. Normally my image is demur and doesn’t like being looked at, maybe for a few seconds, then looks away.

Something changed this weekend, I may get to it later or not. Let’s see!

Well, it’s sooner than later, I had some wonderful words write that have disappeared for a while, they my come back or not.

This weekend I was continuing my training to be an Alexander Technique Teacher, it’s taken longer than most but not as long as other I know. I love the work and rediscoveries that I have made about myself. There has been tears and snot, lots of it. Especially this last Sunday, even before we started at ten. I have a dear friend, she’s an Alexander Technique Teacher in Scotland, we message each other regularly, she’s sometimes my safety valve, she sometimes pushes my boundaries. Last week she wrote some thoughts for horses, “In our Hands“. On Sunday morning I read it again probably for the fifth or so time, I was in the restaurant where I was staying, I had to leave the restaurant to get to the safety of my room and sobbed and sobbed: I discovered for me it wasn’t about horses, it was about me!

The second part was particularly poignant for me.

“2. Can you sit in balance on a chair, easily for a prolonged period of time without discomfort? If not, learn to do so before you sit on a horse. You are only bringing your inbalances to your riding and teaching your horse tension otherwise. You will create imbalances. Find your own poise first and then you will find the poise of your horse. It’s magical when it happens and totally worth the work on your self.”

Kirsten Harris

The learning I’ve been doing for these years is summed up in the last sentence ” It’s magical when it happens and totally worth the work on your self.”

Sunday was the third day of the weekend training, I’d discovered things that I wanted to explore, I usually have things to explore but normally I can’t seem to express them verbally, they normally disappear deep inside me, this weekend I let them all out, there was no resistance, well maybe a little with some things, Kajsa helped me with her kind and skilful words and touch. I was suddenly in the here and now without effort, I didn’t try to get there, I was just there and I wasn’t going anywhere else! I’ve experienced this a few times before but then it was fleeting, not the persistence I discovered on Sunday and that is still with me now.

My image is content with me as I am with my image; a strange and wonderful space and time to be in. I’m getting used to it and loving it!

Peter at South Bank has been training me for a few years to help me rediscover myself, this rediscovery brings naturally freedom and aliveness in everything I do. It is utterly fantastic, even when I’m angry, confused, happy or sad.
You have got to here in my blog and may be fasinated by my discovery, if you don’t know anything about the Alexander Technique, go find a teacher. Rediscovering you freedom and aliveness is easy with the help of a teacher, it will be fleeting. The skill is freedom and aliveness with persistence; knowing that if something or someone knocks you off balance, your freedom and ease can return in an instant. This takes practice, loads of practice, as Kirsten wrote “It’s magical when it happens and totally worth the work on your self.”
Love to you all that have helped me this far on my journey, there have been many.