Many people see kintsugi as a symbol of rebirth supporting an ancient philosophy that nothing is ever truly broken beyond disrepair. Rather than hiding the damage of a broken bowl, plate or mug, kintsugi emphasises the breakages, creating a new and improved golden pattern into the tableware so it becomes even more valuable than before.
What has this to do with you?
I see this as a metaphor for each and everyones life. We are “as designed” when we are born then over time situations, people and our own thoughts and beliefs wear away at what we are supposed to be. This statement is intentionally very nebulas as we are moulded by situations, people and our thoughts and beliefs over time, I guess the issue is when these aren’t serving you your best, when you are being a slave to them and getting nothing in return, then there is a problem. Eventually you will snap, crash, break or be a nasty mess on the floor, you may be all of these all at once or over a period of time from months to decades.
Nothing will change until you realise that the stuff not servicing you is not for you, this is so hard to recognise as these things are you, or you believe they are you. It is not until you completely snap, crash, break and be that nasty mess on the floor that you may notice there is a need to change. Note the ‘may’ as it is very hard to grasp that what you have been doing for all those years isn’t serving you and leading you to an early grave. You need to stop and look around, pause for as long as you need and be brave at what you see and hear. If you don’t like what you see and hear, stop doing it. Easy words to say but difficulty to really do.
This happened to me a few months ago, what I’ve been doing for many years wasn’t serving me now, it may have been once but not at that moment. After my snap, crash, break and nasty mess on the floor. I picked up the pieces that are serving me and left the rest on the floor; this takes time, help from others that’s those who have the best for me and I really trust. Trust is ever so important; I let my heart and gut tell be who was right for me and letting my head be quiet for a change.
Carefully picking each piece up and finding where it fits and rejoining with love I’ve slowly rebuilt myself with my own love and the love and support from others. It is ever so important to seek help as they can see things that I was clearly blind to me, the things that are deeply hidden and waiting to return to the good old days, these things need to be thanked for their service and let go.
Seek the support that you need; my support was my wife, close friends, quietness and reflection. Have the knowledge of what helps also helped me, I got a lot of support from fellow EAM mentors, either just chatting or helping me with energy alignment, I’ve also done kinesiology, hypnotherapy and CBT to help me. There are many more modalities out there, these are the ones that resonated with me and presented themselves at the right time.
I guess we will all have our own crash and end up a shitty mess on the floor, we will all have our own from of shitty mess, mental breakdown, some physical, perhaps back pain, shoulder pain and others will have cellular problems that manifest as cancer or many other issues. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we all did a little bit of self-help each day or find a trusted friend or mentor to repair the cracks with love as they appeared hence constantly improving yourself with love and the love of others over time. Wouldn’t this be better than having the experience of being a shitty mess on the floor and rebuilding yourself from scratch.
There are many therapists and mentors out there that can help. Now you have read this far, I’m available to chat to see how I can help.