Well, I do, far more often than I’d like. It is normally when I’m not in control of things and I’m using responses from a time long ago. It is strange, I can be happy as Larry then something out of the blue pops up and I flop into worry and despair for no logical reason.

I do understand the mechanics of these behaviours but I still keep doing doing it. Admittedly, a lot less than a several years ago.

But it still happens!

Some old habits just don’t want the go!

I know how to get out of this state however sometimes I just wallow in the mire.

My way of getting out of this state is to firstly notice I’m having a bad time, this seems pretty obvious, from the outside its easy but, as probably many of you know, its difficult form in inside. I tend to need to fester for a while as I wrote above. There seems to be a moment when I sense enough is enough and I’m ready to get out of the mire, today was different, I was ready then I learnt about the death of an EAM mentor, i had never met her physically, only ever on Zoom, her energy was such a bright star burning in the dark, i will miss her as will many other. To me it feels like the day Steve Wright passed, grief and shock keeps flowing over me, I sense a collective grief and sadness.

Coming out of this gloom has been slow today, in fact I’m still there!

You my have read or heard about the power of now, this is what i use for my clients and also for myself. Being in the Now is a magical place where there is no place for doom and gloom, Now only happens for a moment, in fact its less than a moment, it’s the shortest period of time you can imagine. Holding on to Now means that you have held onto the past, this past may be only a moment ago, it is still the past!

To be in the Now you have to let go of what was Now a moment ago and then welcome in the new Now and instantly let that Now go to welcome the next Now in, then repeat and repeat. You may notice your mind clears, sometime your mind gets louder as if protesting about the intrusion of Now!

Give it a go, find somewhere to sit quietly, don’t drive etc as your eyes will be closed.

• Close you eyes
• Welcome the Now by silently saying Welcome
• Let now go by silently saying Let Go
• Repeat over and over again getting faster and faster, you may get so fast that there is no time for the words.

You my have some mind wandering, if you do, pause and start again, please don’t tell yourself off about it, this takes practice.

Calmness will appear, continue letting go and open yous eyes, your vision may have softened and you feel calmer. This certainly works for me.

I did this practice whilst writing this, I now feel grounded and present: i’m out of the gloom and mire.

How about you?

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